[This
eulogy was offered at the memorial service for Edgar Warren Tomberlin, Friday,
December 29, 2023, Purcell’s Chapel, Beyer’s Funeral Home, Bushnell, Florida]
Good afternoon. My name
is Harry Coverston. I am the oldest child of Samuel and Marjorie Coverston. I
grew up here in Bushnell, graduating from South Sumter High School in 1971.
Warren Tomberlin was my beloved classmate. And Mr. Tomberlin was my teacher.
Lucy and I have always been dear friends since those days growing up here together. When she asked me if I would speak at this service today, I immediately told her that I would be honored to do so. And it truly is an honor to be here today.
Both of the Tomberlins
were colleagues of my Dad during his many years teaching at South Sumter. He
always valued their friendship and their counsel. My Mother was friends with Mr.
Tomberlin during her days in high school in Lake City. So our families have
been connected for a long time. For that I am grateful.
Small Town But Never
Small Time
Some of you long timers
may remember Lee Smail, who taught with my Dad and the Tomberlins at the high
school for many years as the music teacher and band director. Mr. Smail had a
saying that always prompted me to think. He said, “Just because we are small
town does not mean we have to be small time.”
But our teachers were determined that their students would have access to the best quality education in their small town that they could give them. And I can tell you from my personal experience that we were, indeed, given a good beginning. From that starting place, I would begin my own long engagement of higher education that would result in three graduate degrees. It would also play out in long stints in public education that began teaching middle schoolers, like Mr. Tomberlin, and ended teaching undergraduates at two state universities.
But all along the way, I was always aware of and grateful for the basics I learned in the Sumter County public schools. For the time I lived here, we were always small town. But our dedicated teachers never let us get away with being small time.
The
Consummate Teacher
Mr. Tomberlin was my seventh grade homeroom teacher and he taught our science classes in seventh and eight grade. He was a consummate teacher. And those of us who were fortunate enough to be taught by him know that we are in his debt.
Under his tutelage, I came to be fascinated by the solar system and developed a deep love for our budding space program. I learned how to track hurricanes, a skill that has come in much more handy than I could have ever imagined. And I learned about the dangers of air and water pollution that were just then beginning to be recognized, dangers that now seem obvious in this time of anthropocentric climate change.
We learned a lot under our science teacher, indeed.
But what Mr. Tomberlin taught us was much greater than the contents of general science classes. What I remember about him was the lessons he taught about living a good life that would shape the way I have approached the world these five decades later.
Lessons in Science,
Lessons in Life
The second life lesson from which we benefitted was his devotion to public service. In many ways, public service runs against the grain of our individualist culture that assesses one’s value by income, power and status. Teachers have never made a lot of money and those of us who have engaged that noble profession know we did not go into it for money, power or status. What we valued was the ability to touch the future, to help our students become all they were capable of becoming, to serve our communities knowing that an educated public is crucial to the health of a democratic society.
I am struck by the way
this dedication has played out in the Tomberlin family. Both Mr. and Mrs.
Tomberlin served the children of Sumter County for many years. And both of the
Tomberlin’s children have offered their lives of service to the people of
Sumter County as teachers. Today, their grandchildren are carrying that torch.
We do not always value our public servants. But we always rely upon them. For the example offered by the Tomberlins, we should all be grateful.
Modeling the Virtue of
Patience
The third life lesson I would point to was Mr. Tomberlin’s patience. To illustrate that I would offer three short stories.
Not surprisingly, bedlam broke out in the classroom. It would take Mr. Tomberlin several minutes to bring us back under control and I was sure he was going to be angry. But he wasn’t. He just said, “OK, I think you’re done now. You can sit down.” He turned off the gas to the Bunsen burner and the water from the sink. And class went on.
The second story I’d
relate is hearsay but I am assured that it is true and it is funny. Mr.
Tomberlin had left South Sumter to become the principal at Bushnell Elementary
where my sister was now attending. She had a classmate who had brought a water
pistol to school one day. Not surprisingly, after he’d used it on a couple of
classmates, the teacher sent the young man to Mr. Tomberlin’s office.
When asked if he had a water gun, the young man pulled it out and held it in front of him. Mr. Tomberlin then said, “Now, let me have it.” And at that point the kid said, “OK,” and squeezed the trigger sending a stream of water into Mr. Tomberlin’s face. Again, a situation that I’m sure I could never have handled without choking the little miscreant. But Mr. Tomberlin simply wiped his face and said, “OK, now, give me the water pistol.”
The final story came from the discussion around my family’s Christmas dinner table this past week. My brother, who was just one year behind me in school, was in Mr. Tomberlin’s seventh grade science class. Mr. Tomberlin was making the point that “A pure vacuum does not exist in nature.” When he invited the students to offer an example that would disprove that statement, my Brother immediately pointed to the head of the student sitting directly in front of him.
Again, while that might have prompted an irritated response from many a teacher, Mr. Tomberlin just laughed. When he had regained his composure, he said, “Now, David, surely you don’t mean that.” So there were two winners that day. Mr. Tomberlin had maintained and modeled his patience in a trying situation. And my Brother was pleased as holiday punch that he had made Mr. Tomberlin laugh.
Patience is one of the seven capital virtues. Not all of us are born with the proclivities to exercise patience. That is why it is important that those who embody that virtue model it for us. Mr. Tomberlin was a very fine model of patience.
Years after I’d left
Bushnell, I would periodically run into Mr. Tomberlin on my visits home. For
awhile I wrote a weekly column for the Sumter County Times. Mr.
Tomberlin was always ready to offer me feedback on those columns. But, more
importantly, he always encouraged me to keep writing. And this pattern of
encouragement was very consistent with the way he engaged his students
across the board throughout his life. In a world where there are more than
enough critics and cynics on a given day, we desperately need our encouragers.
For the gifts of curiosity, public service, patience and encouragement, we are all in Mr. Tomberlin’s debt.
The Good and Faithful
Servant
One of the hats that I
have worn professionally over my lifetime is that of an Episcopal priest. As I
thought about what I wanted to say about Mr. Tomberlin, one passage from the
Gospel of Matthew kept coming to mind. In what is sometimes called the Parable
of the Talents, a master entrusts his property to his servants, each according
to their abilities. Then he departs.
I see a similarity here to Mr. Tomberlin’s service to our county’s children. He took seriously our potentials and then gave us the things of value he had to offer us – lessons from science, lessons from life. Then he let us go to use them as we saw fit.
At the end of this
parable, the Master returns to see how his servants had done. To three of them,
he recognized that they had done the best they could with the skills they
possessed and succeeded beautifully. And so the Master thanks them, telling
them, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
Today it is our turn to say the same. We have come together to remember the remarkable life of a man who touched all of our lives and made our community a better place in the process. And we are here to recognize the legacy of that life, continuing today in the public service of Mr. Tomberlin’s children and grandchildren and in all of us whom he patiently and devotedly encouraged to serve the world. So for all of these gifts, this day, let us say, thank you. And let us close by saying “Well done, Edgar Warren Tomberlin, good and faithful servant.” AMEN.
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Harry Scott Coverston
Orlando, Florida
If the unexamined life is not worth living, surely an
unexamined belief system, be it religious or political, is not worth holding.
Most things worth considering do not come in sound bites.
Those who believe religion and politics aren't connected
don't understand either. – Mahatma Gandhi
For what does G-d require of you but to do justice, and to
love kindness, and to walk humbly with your G-d? - Micah 6:8, Hebrew
Scriptures
Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do
justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly now. You are not obligated to
complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it. - Rabbi Rami
Shapiro, Wisdom of the Jewish Sages (1993)
© Harry Coverston, 2023
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